Places and Spaces
Measure how connected your personal values, goals and activities align with the values, goals and activities of others in this relationship (you and your partner/spouse, you and your family, you and your team, you and your organization).
Green – You have found ways to connect other people’s or group’s values, goals and activities to things you value and want to focus time, energy and resource on. You can see where there are differences in deciding what matters most but you have found ways to work with those differences in ways that minimize or eliminate contention
- Your ability to both understand the values, goals and activities others care about and find ways to connect what matters most to you with what matters most to them allows you to be a living “bridge” between groups that can be easily at odds with each other.
- Volunteer your services to help others work through the “spaces” in the “places” they care about.
Here are some additional facts about the Places and Spaces that can impact our connections.
If you have a moderate ability to influence places and spaces – You know that differences exist in people’s values, goals, activities, etc. but you also have experience with resolving those differences and finding “with spaces” you can both care about.
- You will benefit from more opportunities to work through your own challenges with differences in values, goals, activities in a relationship.
- You will also benefit from participating, with others, in larger group activities to bridge these differences, find connections and build “with spaces” of shared values, goals and activities while allowing for and supporting differences in these areas.
If you struggle to work in Places and Spaces– You may not see or have had positive experiences with conflicts that arise when one party to a relationship will not “flex” their values, goals or activities to be more inclusive – of you or others. Your negative experience with this level of stubbornness makes you frustrated or angry that you’re not being valued in these areas. This frustration contributes to your desire to end the relationship, disconnect and move on.
- Before you make a permanent decision to disconnect or leave try to find one area or one person where just one of your values, goals or preferred activities can get an honest hearing and a measurable indication that some flexibility exists.
- If you choose to disconnect and/or move on please use this negative experience as a way to assess, proactively, if the next relationship you’re going to connect to is open to bridging the “spaces” or differences in values, goals and activities so they are more inclusive for everyone.
